I think that the best approach to parenting that I can fathom is to not give your child any excuses. I believe that by circumstance and nature we are all susceptible to making excuses for why we don't or why we can't do the things that we want to do. Whether it's a turbulent childhood or having been a victim of some crime or having to deal with emotions and make decisions on your own from a young age. If I can ever get past my own excuses and am ever able to have children of my own. I will raise them to have no excuses. Not being knowledgeable enough will never be an excuse, because I'd encourage them to read and learn from an early age. Not being skilled enough will never be an excuse because I will encourage them to take classes in what activities interest them from an early age. Any avoidable traumatic childhood experiences will not be theirs because I will constantly have their protection in mind, and I will always defend them. yeah I'll also teach them to not make excuses. Our creator gave us control of our selves. And we don't prepare our selves and our children to deal with life's uncertainties, there's no one to blame but ourselves. My mom isn't willing to take any of the blame for my unpreparedness, so I'm on my own, but my kids won't be. I know how to build strength of spirit mind and body now; it would have been nice to know when I was young and felt like doing shit. But my kids will be taught. I'll prepare myself for anything. And then I'll prepare my children.